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AN ‘I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO’ SITUATION

We were in lovely Cusco, high in the Peruvian Andes. It’s a city and gateway to Machu Picchu, so it welcomes many tourists every day. The day before, we came across an amazing street performer, who had lots of traditional instruments and used random things like feathers to make music.

We loved it so much, we decided to go and look for him again. As we were approaching the courtyard, I recognised the drumming sound and was delighted he was there. There was a young couple getting involved, like really involved. The performer was flickering his big feather all over the guy, whilst the women was filming. It sounds raunchy but it wasn’t at all! 

Anyway a few minutes past and two young local girls came and stood at the front. They were no more than 5 or 6, but they didn’t have their parents with them. They were innocently enjoying the music when one of them got brutally shoved out of the way by the women.

It was really aggressive, she almost lost her balance and had to take big steps to recover the shove. I was shocked. At first I couldn’t understand why she pushed her, until she pushed the other little girl as well. This time I could see it’s because they were standing in front of her phone whilst she was filming her boyfriend. 

I was staring in disbelief. Maybe she was their mother? Obviously, the kids were a lot darker than her so they would have to be adopted. Even if it was their mother, it was too much and I didn’t know what to do. I noticed the girls walking away, so they definitely were not related. My Spanish is ‘poco’ so I couldn’t really ask them if they were ok. I tried, but they were looking at me blankly and worried.

Quinn and the feather man the day before

I told my hubby what happened. He said “how come I never see these things happening?” I was hoping he saw too. That way I wouldn’t feel I was making it up in my head. Knowing I’m not the sort to stay quiet he asked me if I was going to say something.

I said “I dunno” because I genuinely didn’t know. Shaun and Esmé were ready to leave and had started walking off, my legs weren’t moving because my head was saying go and give that good for nothing your two pence!

I couldn’t help myself. At this point the boyfriend is dressed up in all the traditional gear and sitting on a throne. She’s still filming. Given her previous reaction to interruption I knew it wasn’t going to go down well.

I said excuse me do you speak English?

She looked at me with utter disgust for interrupting. Glancing at me with one eye and quickly looking back at her phone she had a snarl on her face and said “a little”.

Only for I had a baby on my front, well I won’t even say what I could have done. I’m not sure where her accent was from but it was either Eastern European or Russian. 

Me: Good because we need to chat.

Her: Hufff

Me: You pushed those two girls pretty hard. What do you think you were doing?

Her: telling her hubby in her language what I said, waving her arms about

Him: waving his arms and telling me where to go in his language

Me: that’s not acceptable, you had no right to do that.

Her: I was filming and they were in my way….. Hufffff

Me: Just think about what you fucking said lady (In my most aggressive tone).. how dare you!

At this point I walked off. I could see they were both getting irate and feather man couldn’t understand why I was interrupting his entertainment. 

It’s been over a week now and it’s still on my mind. I feel so dissatisfied with how it turned out. They got off scot-free after physically abusing two young kids for the sake of a video.

I can’t help but ask myself what should I have done differently? If I went to the police there would have been a language barrier and they probably wouldn’t be found after that.

So, what would you have done differently? I am really needing piece of mind. Leave a comment if you have time :)

jess @ ordinarygirlextraordinarydreamer.com

Wednesday 7th of February 2018

Good for you!! I'd have been mortified as well, but I don't know if I'd be brave enough to say so in a country I don't know and in a language I'm not fluent in! The world needs more people like you!

Nicola Ruthven

Tuesday 6th of February 2018

Well done you for at least not walking away from the situation and saying nothing. I think I would have done exactly the same as what you did. I felt mad and angry just reading about it. What a horrible couple. Awful. I don't think I would have taken it further with the police when also a tourist in a non English speaking country, awful to feel helpless though eh. X

Nabila

Tuesday 6th of February 2018

You were very brave!! There are rude and horrible people everywhere! I think you were right and everyone should stand up in those kind of situations!

Sabina

Monday 5th of February 2018

What awful people! That is terrible behaviour but I can’t think of much else you could have done. Their only consideration was clearly their filming!

Ronelle- TheHousewifeTravels

Monday 5th of February 2018

Good job Mum! It sounds like an impossible situation to be satisfied about. They were obviously not open to correction and wouldn’t have felt remorse in that moment. You did the best possible. You tried to comfort the girls and let them know that being treated that way was unacceptable. You talked to the woman and hopefully planted a seed that will bloom the next time she is tempted to treat someone poorly. There’s no justice to be had in the situation today but hopefully you can have peace that you contributed what you could when the situation arose and helped to alter the future.

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