AN ‘I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO’ SITUATION

We were in lovely Cusco, high in the Peruvian Andes. It’s a city and gateway to Machu Picchu, so it welcomes many tourists every day. The day before, we came across an amazing street performer, who had lots of traditional instruments and used random things like feathers to make music. We loved it so much, we decided to go and look for him again. As we were approaching the courtyard, I recognised the drumming sound and was delighted he was there. There was a young couple getting involved, like really involved. The performer was flickering his big feather all over the guy, whilst the women was filming.
It sounds raunchy but it wasn’t at all! Anyway a few minutes past and two young local girls came and stood at the front. They were no more than 5 or 6, but they didn’t have their parents with them. They were innocently enjoying the music when one of them got brutally shoved out of the way by the women. It was really aggressive, she almost lost her balance and had to take big steps to recover the shove. I was shocked. At first I couldn’t understand why she pushed her, until she pushed the other little girl as well. This time I could see it’s because they were standing in front of her phone whilst she was filming her boyfriend.

I was staring in disbelief. Maybe she was their mother? Obviously the kids were a lot darker than her so they would have to be adopted. Even if it was their mother, it was too much and I didn’t know what to do. I noticed the girls walking away, so they definitely were not related. My Spanish is ‘poco’ so I couldn’t really ask them if they were ok. I tried, but they were looking at me blankly and worried.

Quinn and the feather man the day before

I told my hubby what happened. He said “how come I never see these things happening?” I was hoping he saw too. That way I wouldn’t feel I was making it up in my head. Knowing I’m not the sort to stay quiet he asked me if I was going to say something. I said “I dunno” because I genuinely didn’t know. Shaun and Esmé were ready to leave and had started walking off, my legs weren’t moving because my head was saying go and give that good for nothing your two pence!
I couldn’t help myself. At this point the boyfriend is dressed up in all the traditional gear and sitting on a throne. She’s still filming. Given her previous reaction to interruption I knew it wasn’t going to go down well. I said excuse me do you speak English? She looked at me with utter disgust for interrupting. Glancing at me with one eye and quickly looking back at her phone she had a snarl on her face and said “a little”. Only for I had a baby on my front, well I won’t even say what I could have done. I’m not sure where her accent was from but it was either Eastern European or Russian.
Me: Good because we need to chat.
Her: Hufff
Me: You pushed those two girls pretty hard. What do you think you were doing?
Her: telling her hubby in her language what I said, waving her arms about
Him: waving his arms and telling me where to go in his language
Me: that’s not acceptable, you had no right to do that.
Her: I was filming and they were in my way….. Hufffff
Me: Just think about what you fucking said lady (In my most aggressive tone).. how dare you!
At this point I walked off. I could see they were both getting irate and feather man couldn’t understand why I was interrupting his entertainment. It’s been over a week now and it’s still on my mind. I feel so dissatisfied with how it turned out. They got off Scott free after physically abusing two young kids for the sake of a video. I can’t help but ask myself what should I have done differently? If I went to the police there would have been a language barrier and they probably wouldn’t be found after that.
So, what would you have done differently? I am really needing piece of mind. Leave a comment if you have time 🙂

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Reese

Good on you for standing up for the girls! Even though you may feel you didn’t achieve anything I’m sure you did! Even if it makes her second guess ever doing that again, or someone else watching may get the courage from you to stand up for someone in their own situation one day for that it’s totaly worth it xx

Tavia
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Tavia

Wow. You did more than almost anyone would have done!! Thank you for standing up for those precious babies!!

Charlotte
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Charlotte

Good on you for telling her (and interrupting her video!) As said above, you did more than most would have. I don’t think the police would have helped in this case (language barrier, not there at the time)

Mel
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Mel

Good on you. I would myself gone and stood in front of you camera. But that’s just me. You did the right thing. Lots more than alot of people would have. Especially in a country where you don’t speak the language.

Jennie
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Jennie

Thank you for standing up for those girls. You never know if they’ve ever had anyone stand up for them before. You could have just made a huge impact on their lives even if that woman continues to be good for nothing. <3

Courtney
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Courtney

I think you did the right thing and likely all you could have safely done. The police likely wouldn’t have been able to do anything and even if they did, it would likely have been a “talking to” for the woman as well. Also, if she physically abused two little girls for a video, I can only imagine what she would have done if you have pursued. Hopefully she will think twice the next time. Good on you and the fact that it weighs on your mind shows what a big, kind heart you have.

Laura O\'Keefe
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Laura O\'Keefe

What a horrid situation Karen!! I think you did all anyone can do. Unfortunately people like this really cannot be told, even if you did tell the police it would be your word against theirs. I’ve come across these people so often (as I’m sure you have in a job like ours) and they have no moral compass at all. Well done you for telling them it wasn’t right. Maybe if enough people speak up like you they’ll start to think!

Laura O\'Keefe
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Laura O\'Keefe

That apostrophe gives me so much grief ? obviously that’s not actually how I spell my name ?

Danielle McCoy
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Danielle McCoy

Oh honey it sounds like an awful situation. I think for yours and Quinn’s safety you did the most you could. If she was prepared to push two young local girls while the performer did nothing I don’t think she would have thought twice at pushing you out the way either. You stood up for those babies which is more than the performer did! Xx

Jen
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Jen

So brave of you to stand up for those girls! Russian tourists have unfortunately a reputation of being rude and impolite so I am not surprised.

Alison
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Alison

Always say something. Often afterwards people will think about it and might think twice next time. (Even if it’s only so they don’t get challenged again) Doing something is better than nothing. And there was really nothing more you could have done. I constantly do things like this and my husband gets so embarrassed. But I always say, look if that were my kids I would want someone to help/say something. In our town of warwick (uk) I’ve seen lots of thinks like this with oriental tourists. Literally stopping traffic to take flipping photos. Often taking pictures of our bloody… Read more »

Alison
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Alison

Ps, police probably wouldn’t have done much. In the uk (I’m a family support worker), you’d be surprised how bloody hard it is for anything to be done about serious child abuse on a daily basis let alone a shove in the street. Xxxx

Charlotte
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Charlotte

Well done for speaking up!! Definitely the right thing to do whether you were ‘heard’ or not. I notice as I have got older and become a parent I am much more assertive and quite the vigilante! Mostly to protect but also I hope to set my children an example to speak up if something troubles them.

Jane
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Jane

You did the right thing. Great you said something – you’d be kicking yourself if you walked away. Hopefully that woman will second guess her actions and realise people are watching from now on.
or maybe you should have shoved her over ?

Lorna
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Lorna

Maybe she is sitting at home as you are still thinking of the situation and the next time the situation arises, hopefully it won’t anyways, then she will think again about pushing the children etc. Or maybe when has children of her own silly woman.

Jessica
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Jessica

I think i would have accidentally on purpose knocked her phone out of her hand, and stood on it whilst i walked away.

Grace
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Grace

I feel with anger Karen , oh dear me! I will tell them off right there and make sure they are shamed in public / social media, something shocked me more the guy who represents or was wearing The Inka outfit didn’t say anything or at least warn people some kind of videos is taken and they don’t want children near by but even that no one has right to push or abuse children in that way. I will definitely report it to local authorities taken pics of the couple . Thank you for sharing x

Rebecca
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Rebecca

I think you did great. You’ve planted a seed in that women’s mind and she’ll think twice next time. So hard but sometimes all you can do is say that’s not okay.

Holly
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Holly

Well done you!!
Like others have said you did more than most. That’s was disgusting behaviour from her over a video! Karen confronting her and ultimately ruining the video was definitely enough for her to think twice about doing something like that again! Hopefully it means she’s unable to post the video for her friends to see because she’s too embarrassed for her behaviour and has the lesson to watch over and over bevause no doubt she is also overthinking the situation.
If the girls parents were there I’m sure they would thank you xx

Mariana
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Mariana

You did more than anyone else would have done. You did what you could, and did not look the other way. And that is a lot. These shitty attitudes happen a lot these days. The police wouldnt have done anything, I live in south america, trust me.
You cant change what she did but hopefully you gave her something to think about. And karma is a bitch!
Have a wonderful trip!

Louise
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Louise

I feel you did all you could in that situation. The police probably wouldnt of taken much notice. Thank goodness the littlw girls wernt hurt. But you let the woman know what she had done was totally wrong. Good on ya xox

Ronelle- TheHousewifeTravels
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Ronelle- TheHousewifeTravels

Good job Mum! It sounds like an impossible situation to be satisfied about. They were obviously not open to correction and wouldn’t have felt remorse in that moment. You did the best possible. You tried to comfort the girls and let them know that being treated that way was unacceptable. You talked to the woman and hopefully planted a seed that will bloom the next time she is tempted to treat someone poorly. There’s no justice to be had in the situation today but hopefully you can have peace that you contributed what you could when the situation arose and… Read more »

Sabina
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Sabina

What awful people! That is terrible behaviour but I can’t think of much else you could have done. Their only consideration was clearly their filming!

Nabila
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Nabila

You were very brave!! There are rude and horrible people everywhere! I think you were right and everyone should stand up in those kind of situations!

Nicola Ruthven
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Nicola Ruthven

Well done you for at least not walking away from the situation and saying nothing. I think I would have done exactly the same as what you did. I felt mad and angry just reading about it. What a horrible couple. Awful. I don’t think I would have taken it further with the police when also a tourist in a non English speaking country, awful to feel helpless though eh. X

jess @ ordinarygirlextraordinarydreamer.com
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jess @ ordinarygirlextraordinarydreamer.com

Good for you!! I’d have been mortified as well, but I don’t know if I’d be brave enough to say so in a country I don’t know and in a language I’m not fluent in! The world needs more people like you!